Mrs. Blue hipped me to some website about inter-racial dating stuff and I was intrigued but I also got the sense from her that I might find it not to be what I expected (and that maybe she had some issues with the website). I wasn’t wrong.
Now I’m just not feeling like promoting this chick’s blog because it seems to have done blown up and gotten really popular already without my help and I don’t like it one bit. Oh its not that I have a problem with dating across those old color lines not at all. Problem is the whole blog seems based on the idea that black women can’t find black men who are worth a crap so they should be actively looking to date outside their race.
Now here’s one of the problems: People typically WANT to date their own race. Nuthin wrong with that it’s just a fact of life. We tend to gravitate towards what we are seeing every darn day in the mirror. So the premise that black women who don’t date outside their race are missing the proverbial boat irks me. Why must they be instructed that success in relationships REQUIRES them to go outside their race? That’s just wrong and dissmisive of the good black men out there dontcha think?
But ya know what really pisses me off no end? This chick refers to nonblack men as “rainbow men”. Now asides from being a silly sounding term this is loaded with all kinds of baggage. I haven’t seen a rainbow yet with pink, white, tan, or olive in it. Only yellow is in the mix so really only the asian guys qualify as being a color of the rainbow. And yet all the other folks are part of the rainbow of fruit flavor but not dark brown (unless middle eastern I guess or maybe Indian) or blue-black are in the rainbow. Sounds kind of self-race-hating to me (since the blog chick is black) that all non-black guys are part of the “light” (rainbows being all about light) and the black guys are the untouchable nasty scary darkness.
Make me sick really.
Yeah inter-racial dating is fine. Yup it can lead you to love and a happy life. But calling everyone who isn’t black a good catch and basically telling black women they’re wasting their time if they chase black men is nasty.